Shoes and Ships and Sealing Wax

White men from prosperous families grow up with the expectation that our voices will be heard. We expect politicians and professors to listen to us and respond to our concerns. We expect public solutions to our problems. And when we’re hurting, the discrepancy between what we’ve been led to believe is our birthright and what we feel we’re receiving in terms of attention can be bewildering and infuriating. Every killer makes his pain another’s problem. But only those who’ve marinated in privilege can conclude that their private pain is the entire world’s problem with which to deal. This is why, while men of all races and classes murder their intimate partners, it is privileged young white dudes who are by far the likeliest to shoot up schools and movie theaters.

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—	Why most mass killers are privileged white men - http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2012-07-why-most-mass-murderers-are-privileged-white-men (via lotus-eyes)

aboutcisprivilege:

ultralevel:

aboutcisprivilege:

cis privilege is having people call you by the right name and pronoun without complaint.

Wait so I’m female and I get called sir all the time so what kind of privilege do I have?

though women aren’t a privileged group in this society, the real difference is that society as a whole believes that an individual with a vagina is automatically a woman.

if a person mistakes your gender, it’s not a painful reminder that society refuses to think of your identity as valid. if you correct them, they’ll usually accept the correction, whereas with a trans* person, especially one who doesn’t pass, the general opinion tends to be “well, i shouldn’t have to change the way i speak,” usually followed up by the supposed justification, “since you’re not really a _______.”

(that, by the way, is no exaggeration. i have had multiple people literally say that to me.)

this is most prominent when it comes to people who knew a trans* person before that person’s transition/coming out. one of the most common manifestations of cissexism is when cisgender acquaintances of trans* individuals act as though it is a major imposition to ask them to use the right name and pronoun. i’ve had people outright refuse to call me by my preferred name and pronoun because, in their words, it is “unfair” of me to ask them to “change the way they think about” me.

in their eyes, it is unfair for me to ask them to at least try to recognize my identity as legitimate.

so really the difference is that, with trans* people, the misgendering is intentional and invalidating. it’s another subtle mechanism to excuse the denial of a person’s identity.

typette:

littleojibwe:

jalwhite:

piddlebucket:

stfufauxminists:

male feminism. you’re doin’ it right.

oh gurl yes

This one, I will reblog.

When I say I’m a feminist, I get the eye roll and the “Ohhhhh, great”

When any of my male friends say they are feminists they get “Wow! It’s great that you’re standing up for women’s rights!”

reblogging for the fucking truth.
it’s like this with other things, too. I’ve been on the opposite side too, sticking up for the rights of others on different topics, somehow I’m more legit than they are, and it pisses me off. how the fuck will anyone get anywhere this way?

people don’t get what privilege is? this is! now you understand.